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First of all, I wasn't attacking her not being online, and that's absolutely not the centre point of my message.......and that's not what caused the problem either. Everything started off very friendly (trust me....afterall I know about us better.)
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I didn't said you intenteded to attack her. What you intented when you wrote the above segment is relativly insignificant.
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And once she told me this very sentence "I know that I'm not that easy to be together with, and I can be difficult too, but I do have lovely sides....a guy just has to know how to take me"
She also once admitted to being resentful, and that it takes her a little while to forgive someone......
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Translation: I want a guy who knows what he wants. Someone who projects power, instead of someone who likes to be the victim.
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trust me....afterall I know about us better[...]
BUT.......I didn't realise she was THIS sensitive though.
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You don't need to be much sensitive to feel attacked by your communication.
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To tell you the truth (and trust me, I am not making up any of what I am saying in this thread) she admitted multiple times that with her ex boyfriends, she used to fight and complain, and they got annoyed at her too.
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Allocating blame to her won't help you.
Taking responsibility does.
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So I will make it clear to you so that we don't overcomplicate things. What annoyed her is the fact that I asked her twice. She thought she already told me what she did and the fact that I asked the second time (because I didn't get the message) annoyed her.......
It's as simple as that.....
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How do you know?
Unfortunatly communication isn't that easy. The thing people intend to say and the thing that the other person receives is often something different.
That produces communication problems. You probably have the similar problems in other conversations with her and think she "acts wrong", because you don't understand the reasons for her behavior.
Asking her to explain it to you won't help you either, because you won't change you framework but interpret your explanation inside that framework. (in addition the story that she tells herself doesn't have to be accurate either)