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Jim11 · 09-24-2007, 11:08 PM

You just have to get passed making excuses for joining different things. At least that was my problem

If you join a sports league, start frequenting environments with more people, volunteer at a local charity, and throw in a couple other things... you will surely meet some good people quickly. Or just one of those things if you're doing nothing.

These are all common things that everyone will tell you to do... but it really is that that simple. You just have to go out and do it without making excuses. "I'm too busy to fit this in", "that's too early in the morning", "I don't think people at this club will be my type", etc lol. I used to make those excuses a fair bit.

If you're into math:
1 in 25 people you get a good change to meet you find interesting and you'd like to be friends with.
You get a good chance to talk with 1 person a month for more than 2 minutes. BAD EQUATION... meet 50 people in a month and you'll come out with at least a couple good ones to keep around!

Mix in browsing a couple online personals if that's something you'd be into. Just a call for "hang out" or something. Or look up different local things like the facebook meetings the previous poster mentioned.

I found once I started talking to a few strangers in difference places and random people at work (who I usually wouldn't converse with) it quickly became habit... and usually a fun habit.

09-24-2007, 11:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jim11 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 213	You just have to get passed making excuses for joining different things. At least that was my problem If you join a sports league, start frequenting environments with more people, volunteer at a local charity, and throw in a couple other things... you will surely meet some good people quickly. Or just one of those things if you're doing nothing. These are all common things that everyone will tell you to do... but it really is that that simple. You just have to go out and do it without making excuses. "I'm too busy to fit this in", "that's too early in the morning", "I don't think people at this club will be my type", etc lol. I used to make those excuses a fair bit. If you're into math: 1 in 25 people you get a good change to meet you find interesting and you'd like to be friends with. You get a good chance to talk with 1 person a month for more than 2 minutes. BAD EQUATION... meet 50 people in a month and you'll come out with at least a couple good ones to keep around! Mix in browsing a couple online personals if that's something you'd be into. Just a call for "hang out" or something. Or look up different local things like the facebook meetings the previous poster mentioned. I found once I started talking to a few strangers in difference places and random people at work (who I usually wouldn't converse with) it quickly became habit... and usually a fun habit. Last edited by Jim11; 09-24-2007 at 11:13 PM.