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Originally Posted by NotesMaeve  Being on the opposite end of this, having an obsessive, sad ex, I am telling you: Leave her alone. When you've done something terrible, sometimes you screw it up beyond repair with that individual. Just don't repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship. |
This sounds like to me you have a rough time forgiving people... Your way of thinking makes me question... Are there really certain things that are ireparable relationally? Aren't all conflicts reperable in a certain context by working for either a "win-win" or a sacrifice? Or is it how one looks at the situation which creates the "beyond repair" mentality? Is it really honestly beyond repair, or is it that I just don't have the answers or the right attitude of unconditional love at this time? Do I lack the proper behaviors, thoughts, and attitudes to figure out what exactly it is that I am trying to do?
(If you wronged someone you care for, wouldn't you want forgiven... perhaps this is really what your obsessive sad ex also is seeking, but doesn't know how to deal with his/her emotions.)