I have learned the hard way over the years and have now for decades held a firm conviction that I can always change myself, my ideas, opinions, attitudes and anything spiritual or mental - at least to some degree. The technique I have found most effective is
1. Learn every possible thing I can about the thing.
2. Mentally and Spiritually take full responsibility for the thing to the best of my ability.
3.a. Change the thing by changing myself and
3.b. Change, Control and Manage the thing, step by step, and little by little according to 1.,2. and 3.a.
Sometimes the results are seemingly miraculous and sometimes less so. My results are NOT miraculous yet...
However, I have taken several positions as the leading partner in opposition to some of her opinions and held that position based upon my statements to her that my contribution is greater, more constant and more wholesome of our partnership business (without making her wrong or making less of her).
I have also continued to compliment her on the correct things she is doing as they happen and telling her with "conviction" of more things she needs to do and letting her know that I must enforce her increased contributions of time and money. I am looking for staff and have let her hear me honestly making calls without any discussion or consultation to her.
She has tightened up a bit and changed a bit for the better. Her attitude is fully corrected for now.
I am seeking staff that will work piecework rather than salary or percentage. I wonder if that will work but it did work greatly for me many years ago when I had a staff that quickly grew to 18 smart young women who learned and worked with me. I am working out a word ad that I will put out at the local Community College and to local waitresses (the beach season and high waitress income just ended this week). I am working out numerous statisitically managable and piecework valuable things that this staff can do for me such as Internet and Blog postings, picture taking, key word research and submissions for several Blog posting ideas I am forming, etc. This will surely bring in extra money.
I will find my first staff in the next week or two. I will let her know what I am doing and let her know that I will take the money from the gross income before making our split. I hope to have my Brokers License in a few days which grants me the legal lead of our partnership. I will wait to use this technique until I have official word of my Broker license.
Please continue to post as the strongly worded
and well thought out
input you folks are giving me, means a great deal to me as I form my new thoughts and patterns. Good Stuff; keep it coming PLEASE!!!
This is a unique, interesting and first time exercise for me; asking you smart folks whom I don't really know to help me out!!! This request for help from someone I don't know (or even from someone I know) is not something I am accustomed to doing!
Thanks and please keep it up folks!
By the way; this is to some degree a situation that takes a good deal of it's thrust from the male/female roles we have in addition to our partnership roles. I REALLY NEED TO HAVE SOME INPUT FROM WOMEN PLEASE!