I think you should question where you get your levels from? Indeed they must come from comparing yourself to other people, and at that point you identify with what you see as lack in comparison to what someone else has.
Isn't it funny how most of the time when people make comparisons it is usually to bolster or trouble their ego?
"At least I am not as bad off as this guy"
"Why can't I have friends like that?"
The point is not to tie your ego in with things you percieve as having or lacking.
In other words, if you feel you could be better socially, don't take it personally, just make it a goal to work towards being better, us it as inspiration.
I know this is pretty confusing, Steve explains it better than I do, and I think this blog entry is what you are looking for:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...rsonal-growth/