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Originally Posted by Angela  But if she hasn't asked to you to stop contacting her, why not write her a little note taking responsibility for what you did to hurt her, apologizing, making a commitment to her never to do that thing again, and letting her know you'd like to be her friend? |
Angela's heart is in the right place - just behind her sternum, gently tucked between her lungs, thumping away happily - and undoubtedly she means well, but I frankly don't think this is a good idea.
The best thing you can do for her and for yourself is turn the corner on this and be grateful for the time you and her had together.
Allow her and yourself to move forward without looking back. The only way to truly do that is to decide upon, and stick to, a strict no-contact policy. No notes. No phone calls. No emails. No text messages. No smoke signals. No (insert other chosen modes of communication here).
Sure, you may have done or not done some things that stab you with regret, but those are all learning experiences. Going over those issues again will only serve to deepen the wound.
The best gift you can give to her is her freedom. That's the best gift you can give yourself too.