[DQueens]

For the past while now, my wife and i have been fighting. The thing is that everytime we fight she will tell me that she doesnt love me and hasnt loved me for years. this would be fine to excuse a comment like this (only i dont know how someone can say something like this if it is coming out of thin air) but it has happened about 10-15 times. I dont know what to do. I know that if i didnt love her anymore i would not want to stay married to her. however, when i think of it, there could be lots of reasons she would stay in this marriage if she didnt love me anymore. fear, not wanting to be alone, i support her, etc.

right now things are better. she has told me that she didnt mean it, and we are not fighting as much anymore. she is going to therapy. but those comments still haunt me when i think of the fact that people generally mean the things they say. that people dont always draw statements out of thin air, especially when they know it could sabotage their marriage. i am wondering what people think, if anyone has experienced something like this, or has ever made comments to hurt someone that they didnt mean whatsoever.

thanks.