[konmai]

i have a friend who i initially met online on a forum we were on together for about a year. i really liked her posts & thought we were a lot a like which resulted in me asking her out. so we can get to know each other more.

it turns out she's very shy & depressed. every time she talks about what she wants to do, & i tell her to go for it, she always says she's just much too shy & depressed. she talks about her past a lot & has had a rough childhood. sometimes she even seems overly critical of others and is just disrespectful of me like when she leaves, she doesn't even say "bye." she tells me it's just her constructed wall... so she doesn't get hurt by anyone. i can completely understand that, but i don't know if i should continue allowing this? sometimes all her behavior makes me feel as if she's testing to see just how much bs i can take, but i also want to give her that benefit of a doubt... that she's just protecting herself being this way.

one thing i like about her is her honesty about herself. she seems like an open book whereas with other friends, i always have a sense that they're holding back. i guess right now i'm questioning the type of friends i want to have in my life.

i would definitely appreciate any insight into this. thank you!