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Mark Lapierre · 09-20-2007, 02:31 AM

I've been there too, once, though that time was probably the most socially active time of my life, so I wasn't between friends for long.

What I did to find new friends was unintentional. I joined a forum in order to find out what was happening within that particular niche, and ended up getting caught up in all the socialising. This soon moved offline and before I knew it I'd made a big new bunch of friends through the people I met on the forum.

So if your desire is to find new friends, I'd suggest throwing yourself into the social side of your interests. Join a forum, join a club, join a class, etc.

But suppose you're already engaged in a lot of activities, haven't met anyone, and don't have time to find anything new. That would be a good time for self-improvement through introspection. If you're highly extroverted it's unlikely that you won't still have people to confide in, or at least won't meet people soon. But if you're highly introverted then you could undoubtedly benefit from some time and effort directed towards identifying your values, needs, wants, and future direction.

09-20-2007, 02:31 AM	#4 (permalink)
Mark Lapierre Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 1,061	I've been there too, once, though that time was probably the most socially active time of my life, so I wasn't between friends for long. What I did to find new friends was unintentional. I joined a forum in order to find out what was happening within that particular niche, and ended up getting caught up in all the socialising. This soon moved offline and before I knew it I'd made a big new bunch of friends through the people I met on the forum. So if your desire is to find new friends, I'd suggest throwing yourself into the social side of your interests. Join a forum, join a club, join a class, etc. But suppose you're already engaged in a lot of activities, haven't met anyone, and don't have time to find anything new. That would be a good time for self-improvement through introspection. If you're highly extroverted it's unlikely that you won't still have people to confide in, or at least won't meet people soon. But if you're highly introverted then you could undoubtedly benefit from some time and effort directed towards identifying your values, needs, wants, and future direction.