Originally Posted by Angela
(Plus, the likelihood is that all of us who are drawn to point out how you're mirroring are also mirroring something in our own lives! Ai chihuahua, life is a circle.)
Too true. I "dated" a man a few years ago who was inconsistent with returned phone calls, etc. There was something inside me that LOVED that sweet longing - when is he going to call? Does it mean he doesn't want to see me? Hard to admit, but I was SO caught up in the drama of it all. It took a friend who had known me many years to point out that I had said *exactly* the same thing about my Dad a few years before that! ("Why doesn't he call? Doesn't that mean he doesn't love me?")
I kept telling myself (in the relationship equation) well, we're both adults. We both have busy, full lives, we live far from each other. I don't *need* his validation to feel complete. But kept hating his inconsistency at the same time! I had decided to be "through" with him - physically (no phone calls, no sex... no phone sex
) even though I was till attached emotionally, when a friend gave me a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You
". That's one of the reasons I recommend that book so much - it saved me from myself, and from months of *wondering*.