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Originally Posted by Christian223  Im facing this obstacle right now in my quest of becoming better socially, i recognize this is a KEY factor in beign more succesfull, but im having problems achieving it, any advice?, tips?, anything that helps?.
I care about other people, but somehow i find it hard to listen to what they care about, or say, for example just now my mother was talking to me and i just got very anxious to go back to my mind, and this happens with all people when they say something that doesnt link with my interest. It may be because im allways busy interally, allways thinking in things that interest me... so when someone comes with something else, it pushes me away from what I want... any ideas on how to overcome this more easely?. |
I think you may have self-diagnosed your problems.... i have something similar to this... it's like trying to hold a conversation with someone when you are writing an email. You just aren't sincere.
I would advise you to stop whatever you are doing when you speak to a person... shut the internal dialogue down... focus completely on the person in front of you or on the end of the phone. Try to be completely in that moment.
Listening is a skill and it can be enhanced.
I constantly have to remove myself from whatever I am doign in order to have a coherent and connected convo with someone.
Phil x