Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo
I thought this not-showing-up has something to do with me,... <snip>...That's why I wrote I am doing something wrong. I think if I changed something in my behaviour or in my thoughts, he'd not do that. Am I wrong?
I hear that 2 year-old girl thinking, "If only *I* had done something differently, Daddy wouldn't have left! If only *I* weren't such a burden, he would have visited me."
If you are thinking you need to change *anything* about yourself, this is not the man for you. You are perfect and beautiful just as you are - mixed signals and all. Would it help to get clear about what you want? Yup. But in the meantime, can you love your confusion? There is *nothing* wrong with you. There is Nothing Wrong With You
by Cheri Huber The Work
by Byron Katie
may be helpful to you.