There are lots of different issues at play here and they all deserve your attention. To name a few:
Your previous boss was abusive (which, alas, is very common) but that doesn't mean that ALL bosses are abusive ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥. Are you setting up an expectation?
Since you're in a relationship, then your partner's wishes have to be taken into consideration. That's not to say that you have to aquiesce to everything she wants, but it does mean that her input should be valuable.
On a related note, you mentioned that you believe she's your "soul mate." Putting aside the metaphysical aspect of such a relationship (a subject for an entirely different thread, I'm sure
), would not a true "soul mate" be supportive of your dreams and desires?
Lastly, being "true to one's self" is certainly a laudable goal. But there are realities that need to be managed. Money is not everything, but nothing - and I do mean nothing - is improved by poverty.
You may consider something like this: Work on a plan with Tracey to generate regular income (such as this potential job offer) and a strict savings plan. Once you have sufficient resources in the bank to live on for, say, a year, then re-examine the feasibility of creating passive income through a website or something similar.
During that time, work on your passive income generator on the weekends and evenings.
This will do a few things:
- It will give you & Tracey a concrete, do-able goal to work towards;
- You'll build your financial security;
- Improved relationship with Tracey's folks (and, like it or not, parents are a HUGE influence, for better or worse);
- You'll have a better indication of how to generate this passive income without the pressures of relying on it 100% for your income.
Hope that helps.