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Originally Posted by cdn2wheeler  There is, frankly, no greater insult for a man to hear from a woman he's romantically interested in than the "I like you as a friend" or "let's just be friends" speech. It essentially boils down to, "You're second-rate. You might get some of my attention, and only on my terms, but you won't get any of my feelings." It's a monumental slap in the face, a complete and total rejection of who he is as a man. |
This sounds like the meat of the matter here. As Velvet was saying in other words, this is a powerful belief that you are holding and manifesting, and it underlies and undermines your surface desire of using the LoA to get the woman to open her heart up to you romantically.
Not all men hear "You're second-rate" or take it as a monumental slap in the face, or complete and total rejection of who he is as a man, when a woman tells him, "I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with you." A man who knows he's not second-rate, a man who knows the whole idea of being second-rate is an illusion, would simply hear her words at face value and know that she's not the right woman for him. But her words have activated some old pain or insecurity for you, something that has been part of your relationships with women without you even realizing it.
You might want to examine what you believe is true about men and women; perhaps you made up your mind when you were a child after an incident with your mom, or between your mom and dad, that left you feeling second-rate. That was a child's decision about himself, and it is not true -- you are not second rate, and in fact there is no such thing as being second rate. Once you free yourself from being vulnerable to that belief, you'll be free to have a loving, mutually beneficial romantic relationship with a woman who wants to be there with you.
This woman can't free you from your old beliefs about yourself, though. Only you can do that.
Good luck.
p.s., I would stop having sex with her, if I were you. It sounds like it's only making you feel more "bonded" to her (that old oxytocin thing) and feeding your addiction.