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NotesMaeve · 09-17-2007, 04:30 PM

I agree with Matt on this one.

Relationships change over time, but that time isn't always long. Ask her what she wants and make it clear regardless of what she wants, you're still friends. With my current boyfriend, I really didn't really think he was looking for anything but casual fun. He said to me after a couple weeks, "I really want to be your boyfriend, but I get the feeling you don't consider that an option." I said something along the lines of, "Well, I only thought that wasn't an option because you didn't consider it an option." What made for a really WEIRD two weeks wasn't that the interest wasn't mutual, but that two people were so stuck in social convention and a rut of pop psychology they just blew a tiny bit of time. Not a big deal, but I know better. The point is, you have to take a risk, a big one. She may break your heart, but you can't just wait it out, because she WILL move on.

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NotesMaeve Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 937	I agree with Matt on this one. Relationships change over time, but that time isn't always long. Ask her what she wants and make it clear regardless of what she wants, you're still friends. With my current boyfriend, I really didn't really think he was looking for anything but casual fun. He said to me after a couple weeks, "I really want to be your boyfriend, but I get the feeling you don't consider that an option." I said something along the lines of, "Well, I only thought that wasn't an option because you didn't consider it an option." What made for a really WEIRD two weeks wasn't that the interest wasn't mutual, but that two people were so stuck in social convention and a rut of pop psychology they just blew a tiny bit of time. Not a big deal, but I know better. The point is, you have to take a risk, a big one. She may break your heart, but you can't just wait it out, because she WILL move on. __________________ <jamariquay> I never understood the need for people to kill for their religion. Then I remembered, "Wait. If Optimus Prime tells me to gack someone, that ****er's going down."