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Matthew Shea · 09-17-2007, 04:03 PM

Sounds like it's time for "the talk". You know, the one that nobody looks forward to where you have to discuss where your relationship is headed.

Seriously, though, I'd suggest being honest about what you were feeling from her the other day in light of your promise to her and see if your perception is accurate. If it is and she's changed her mind and does want to pursue something romantic, you're not betraying anyone. Otherwise, a good friendship is a valuable thing, too. You can learn a LOT (as I've discovered) from a member of the opposite sex who trusts you and where there's no mutual romantic interest. Just building and maintaining that kind of trust between your friend and you could be a good challenge going forward with many positives.

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Matthew Shea Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Detroit Posts: 772	Sounds like it's time for "the talk". You know, the one that nobody looks forward to where you have to discuss where your relationship is headed. Seriously, though, I'd suggest being honest about what you were feeling from her the other day in light of your promise to her and see if your perception is accurate. If it is and she's changed her mind and does want to pursue something romantic, you're not betraying anyone. Otherwise, a good friendship is a valuable thing, too. You can learn a LOT (as I've discovered) from a member of the opposite sex who trusts you and where there's no mutual romantic interest. Just building and maintaining that kind of trust between your friend and you could be a good challenge going forward with many positives. __________________ A truly open mind will seriously consider all points of view, even those with which it strongly disagrees for there may be a grain of truth in even the most ridiculous of opinions.