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Old 09-17-2007, 03:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
JimOfferman
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Default On breaking promises...

Just wanted to hear some of your thoughts on a little dilemma I faced the other day:

I had promised to be "just friends" with my friend/date. Since her last boyfriend has horribly betrayed her trust (as I posted earlier), I've been very determined to show her that some men (myself in particular) can be trusted. However, the last time we got together, I was definitely not getting a "just friends" vibe from her... but how could I respond to that, without breaking my promise? At the time, I was completely gridlocked between doing what felt right (hugging her or something) and doing what is right (keeping my promise)

Later, I felt a bit silly... of course, in this particular case, breaking the promise will benefit the relationship long term. Still, making clear that I (still) like her a lot and would like to pursue this relationship felt like a betrayal on some level, maybe even being untrue to part of me, even if it's for the best.

Was I being silly? Or not? What would you have done?
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