I'm so glad you posted this!!! That's a BIG problem I am struggling with too currently. I was still trying to solve it on my own. But as you posted this now, I take it as a sign that I should ask for help too
I'm too impatient too. Currently I'm learning a lot about the LoA and how to use it, and that's the biggest problem I have there: detachment. I keep obsessing about my intentions all the time, so they don't manifest.
With other people or with animals I am very patient. I'm patient too when it's about learning something on my own. I have an infinite patience when something is entirely up to me. But when something depends on someone/something else, it drives me nuts.
I think it has something to do with my personality, and it's something about control and fear too. But I don't know, I really need some advice.
I need the feeling that I'm doing something actively. I love moving around, and I love taking action. I get enthusiastic easily. So when I have some project, some idea, or some problem, I want to tackle it NOW, I love this feeling of getting started and doing something. My mother always says my favourite sentence at the age of 2 was "I do it!". If I have to wait for some reason, it's very frustrating.
I am the kind of person who concentrates on one single thing at the time. When I try to solve a mathematical problem, I'll do this till it's solved and do nothing else in this time, even if it takes one week. When I meet someone new, I kind of fall in love with them and want to see them a lot the first time to get to know them better (after this first periode it's ok, I can see them less). When I decide to learn something new, I'd like to do it every day for hours. At university it was extremely difficult for me to take various courses in the same semester, because I always was concentrating on only one of them - not the same all the time, my focus changed from time to time, but I focused always exclusively on one, and got very angry when I got disturbed or was forced to work on the others too (that's one of the main reasons why I broke up my studies btw, because the system here is that you have to work on all courses every week). I have many different interests, but I tend to obsess about one interest for a long time and only one at the time.
It's really extremely difficult for me to do something by the way. Actually I almost never do something along the way. I have almost no background on my system. When I do something, I do it 100%, and then I switch. So when a process is going, I focus exclusively on this process and if nothing visible happens I kind of have nothing to do but sitting around, which I hate. Aaargggg... I find it infinitely difficult to keep doing something else while "my" current process is working in the background.
Worst of all is when it depends on someone else. I don't know why, but it drives me nuts. For example last week I met someone I hadn't seen for three years. So I want to see him and talk with him. If it was up to me, I'd see him immediately because I am so happy to have met him again! I know he's happy too and he wants to see me too, but for work reasons he couldn't yet. Now I'm waiting for him to email me, and he doesn't email. And I'm sooo impatient!!! I'm totally obsessing about that, I hate such a situation!!!
Cynthia, what about you? Did you recognize yourself in what I wrote, or is it something different in your case? Are you particularly impatient when it depends on someone else, or with yourself or the Universe too? Are you impatient because you focus on this process all the time? Or do you just want what you want right now?
I guess impatience has something to do with fear too. Maybe we don't want to give up any control? Or we're scared we might not get what we want? Maybe it's a general lack of trust? I don't know.
I heard one thing to do is to focus entirely on now (read
the Power of now). Or ask "what can I do/think
now to make me feel good?" and don't think of what we want. I had no success with this method so far, but maybe it works for you?