hey cdn2wheeler -
I'm not getting into the whole subjective vs. objective reality debate because, frankly, it gives me a bit of a headache, too! But I would like to comment on your initial issue - about unrequited love and why isn't anything working.
I truly hate that this is likely to sound harsh - but here goes -
These are quotes from your posts:
Quote:
I'm in love with my neighbour.
She has two small kids that see me almost as a surrogate dad
I've always been there to support her in any way I can, from shovelling her driveway to looking after the kids.
I've done everything I know what to do,
If you mean by "date" something like dinner and a movie or whatever, no,
occasional dinner with her kids at a local fast-food place
Occasionally...we'll spend some intimate time together...the sex is wonderful. But it's very rare, and she's certainly not interested in anything romantic,
I became her friend and support because she, and especially the kids, needed it.
The only time we ever sleep together is when she calls me,
I did tell her, once, a while ago, that I thought she and I had a good foundation for a more meaningful relationship and I was interested in pursing it further.
after I had suggested that we "date" or try out a more meaningful relationship, she got quite pi$$ed off and wouldn't speak to me for a few days.
I got a one-word response: NO!
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I think this woman is using you big-time. And why not? She's got an on-call handy handyman, a on-call (free?) babysitter, an on-call sympathetic ear, and an on-call f-buddy, and she doesn't have to take the kids to MickyD's by herself.
At the very least, you're the only one involved here. She has made it very clear that she is not interested in nor invested in you the way you are her. And honestly, do you really want a LTR with someone who doesn't want to be with you, for you?
FWIW - I really hope you're busy with your own life next time she needs something from you.
Love -
Been there done that Lola