This is an interesting point of view.
I tend to think about helping as providing opportunities for paradigm shifts. Often when we are stuck it's because we are thinking about problems the way we have always thought of them, so when I offer assistance I try to help people see their problem in a new way.
When I'm on the asking for help side, sometimes I get just the paradigm shifting assistance I need, but I also get stuff that probably feels paradigm shifting to the advice giver, but feels unrelated or unhelpful to me. Which leads me to realize that many people probably feel that way about my advice too!
I don't think I'm quite ready to stop trying to help, but thanks to your good observation here, I will work on offering thoughts without getting attached to whether they are embraced or not by the asker.
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