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Originally Posted by DeathStorm  Okay, actually his "scandal" occured while he was at the peak of his career and was career-related. He also had a big name, worldwide, but the same popularity that had been so beneficial to him turned against him.
Those are circumstances under which - especially in the business world - individuals realize who care for them without expecting nothing in return, and those who help just because they expect future commercial partnerships, good business relations and - sometimes - a job promotion. |
Hey, mine's job-related too! (Sort of!)
I've had people go, "OMG, YOU WENT ON TO DO X FROM Y?" 99% of the time they follow it up with a laugh or a smile. I just don't get that many negative reactions, but I strongly suspect that's more the type of person I attract rather than dissolving people in the heat of my charm.
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There might be a difference in the ways people network, and I'm sure that there are plenty of other people who - like myself and yourself - communicate out of pure interest towards others, while the "networks" that materialize are mere side effects of our actions.
but the above experience may serve as a "moral anecdote" for those who network without heart; and think there aren't negative side effects as well.
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Oh, I admit, I'm a hedonist with selfish motivations. I do thing because they're exciting or feel good or help me. I truly love less than 20 people in my life.
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I'm personally a blind altruist. I never expect anything in return when I do a favor; and as humanist and optimist as I am, I'm also aware that there are still people around who will take all help and mentorship with an honest and grateful face, and later do pretty unkind things behind your back.
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Personally, I like scandal. Spreading my name around in any fashion just piques curiosity about me. There's one other young woman at work who decided for whatever reason to take up talking about me behind my back much like she did every other person there. Those sorts who just talk always have it backfire on them. She's leaving the job in two weeks because of, what she refers to as us "f***ing people."
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Oh, really? Having read most of what you have written - I don't know whether you will take this positively or negatively - you're actually an extrovert.
Maybe you don't express your extroversion in the conventional "social situations", for whatever reason, but it is definitely part of you (or has grown to become part of you).
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I have a fan!... I mean, I have another fan!
(In my head, I have them in spades.
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Actually, a lot of people get this wrong about introversion/extroversion. I work the room like a Kennedy, am super-friendly, but this should clarify from
http://philosophy.lander.edu/ethics/jung.html:
The extrovert is usually ...
a. motivated by outside factors and greatly influenced by the environment,
(Not particularly. I'm more interested in my personal development and in the interests of a rather small personal posse.)
b. sociable and confident in unfamiliar surroundings, less cautious, less fearful, and
(I always feel a little uncomfortable in a new situation, but I am getting better.)
c. likes organizations, parties, and tends to be optimistic and enthusiastic.
(I'll give you the latter, but while I understand the need for connections, I prefer home and NEED to recharge my batteries here.)
d. Weaknesses of the extroverted attitude include:
(1) a dependence on making a good impression,
(I don't depend on it. I just ultimately DO.)
(2) easily making and breaking relationships,
(It's hard for me to cut ties.)
(3) regarding reflection as being morbid and avoiding being alone,
(Wrong. Not this way at all.)
(4) lacking self-criticism, and
(I have a wicked level self-criticism I am working on toning down.)
(5) accepting the morals and conventions of the day--conventional.
(Hahahahahahahahahaha! Yeah, that's me. Miss Socially Conventional!)
On the other hand:
The introvert is usually ...
a. happy alone with a rich imagination, and
(Yep.)
b. prefers reflection to activity.
(This is just necessary for me.)
c. Weakness of the introverted attitude includes ...
(1) a lack confidence in relation to people and things and
(It's taken me years to overcome this.)
(2) a tendency to be unsociable, shy, and hesitant.
(Hesitation is still a problem for me.)
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Same to you!