[DeathStorm]

lizthefair I understand what you mean, and I would personally never consider you, at any of your life stages that you outlined, as unsocial.
You actually made an effort to fit in, and - whatever the outcome - that alone proves that you are as human and social as everyone else, even though perception sometimes says otherwise.
And I assume that you are probably pretty popular within your own society[/ies]. After all, that's where you really wanted to fit in, that's where your real hobbies and interests lie, am I right?

[ M a t h e m a t i c a l E x c u r s i o n ]
I recently learned about "sets" in our introductory Mathematics class, and I thought of the following:
"Mainstream" is just a subset of the set "Society at large"; the number of elements (people) in the "Mainstream" subset may be higher than the others, plus consider that "Mainstream" is very dynamic and never has a fixed identity, just masses of people coming in and going out; other subsets may be temporarily intersected with it ("emo", "pop music fans", etc. :P)
"Gamers" is simply another subset.
I think that a qualitative hierarchy among the different subsets within "Society at large" is merely an illusion caused by self-fulfilling belief, and that there is no need to suffer just because one prefers being in one over another.
Obviously people can belong to different subsets simultaneously if they want to - and that's where communication can come in handy. But communication doesn't mean giving up on your older subsets...

Another way I could put this (and this probably reflects more of the way I personally try to be) is that there is this big set and all the subsets. But instead of "belonging" to them (i.e. being an element of the subsets), a number of elements (features) within the subsets that you like belong to you as an individual.
i.e. You like the elements "pop music", "fashionable clothes" and "children's cinema" out of the "Mainstream" subset. You like the elements "Dungeons and Dragons", "Go" and "Card Scaling" out of the "Gamers" subset.

Ahhh, hell... I think I read too much about mathematical models these days... ok I'll quit now. :P

(BTW I played Dungeons & Dragons and I really enjoyed it. I actually became Dungeon Master for a while!! But I didn't give up on my quite mainstream-trend-oriented girlfriend, nor on other things that belonged to me... Why would I have to?! We actually played some game sessions at pubs and bars during "happy hours"... and if someone was curious we would invite them... if they seemed disinterested we would elegantly point out at "what they are missing out on"... I mean, that's obvious, isn't it?)