[Life Warrior]

Alright DeathStorm, big breaths here. Let me tell you something interesting, and just try to keep an open mind to it. For a little while I followed a similar line of thinking and was concerned with the same questions that you bring up. But then I had a shift in consciousness, and all of what you describe for the lack of better word, just became silly to me.

You see, we are all unique, and we are all worth the same. We are all perfect the way we are. What matters is not the image that we project to the external world, but the spirit that drives us from within. What matters is what we are able to create in this world through our personal self expression in our short lives on this Earth. There is no God who sits up there and judges us based on what social image that we project. Having a different, more introvert personality does not make you a less of a person. Playing WoW doesn't deduct your "Social Life" points in your interaction with others.

All of these image-based classifications of "cool", "socially competent", "nerd", etc come from ego-based fear driven mindset. It all comes down to us being scared of death, and what is more primal than trying to avoid it in our desire to reproduce? I think all of us are insecure in our sexual competence at least at some point in our lives, and that is where all the "Social Life" breakdown you describe comes from.

But do you see the problem with this type of thinking? If you continue to think in these terms, you will see the world through a very narrow lens and will ultimately be miserable in the end. Instead of appreciating people for who they are, and for the unique qualities that they bring to this world, you will be trying to fit them into this fear-based paradigm of "Social Life".

If you take it one step further, once you are secure in your sexuality and sexual competence, and have totally accepted yourself as you really are - once you realize that you are totally happy with yourself, all this stuff you describe about sociability of other people and standards, it just ceases to matter. Because in the end you don't need to do any comparing of yourself to other people, every one of us is perfect in our own way. The vulnerability mindset is an imaginary construct of the ego because we are too damn scarred to accept impermanence, uncertainty and death. When you come to terms with those, life becomes nothing but joy. Try to raise your level of awareness a bit, and you will see how funny all these people are that try to chase the emptiness of self-image.