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Originally Posted by Cron  Hi Angela;
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You're so right! Although there may be an air of mystery around romantic attraction, if I want a man to ask me out, I do my best to demonstrate it in such a way that he doesn't feel confused. Sometimes a woman is not sure if she wants to go out with a guy or not (or she wants to, but she's not clear within herself as to what she wants - sex, friendship or relationship) and the signals may be mixed. I don't have any need for that anymore, and have left it behind.
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Just out of curiosity, what do you do to let a man know that you are interested in him making the first move and asking you out?
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. It depends. I might square my body towards him so that our whole bodies are facing one another, and think to myself, "this guy is the most attractive guy I've met in a long time. I would like for him to ask me out." There is no place for my attraction to go but straight to his eyes and heart*; there really is no missing it when I do this. It is completely unambiguous and it is so much fun to watch a man respond to it. It's up to him what he wants to do with it, but so far no man has failed to respond extremely favorably. (Except one gay guy, and he told me later he was stealing my technique.)
If I feel like the man is not completely present -- he's distracted or shy or whatever -- there have been times when I've just said, straight out: "I would love to spend some time getting to know you. Call me if you'd like to ask me out" and I hand him my card. Then I forget about him completely, until he calls -- I never waste any time waiting for a phone call.
The first, silent, technique is way more fun for me because it is so effective and makes me feel so sensuous and powerful. Also because if a man is not being completely present, the attraction itself is not as powerful.
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What do you take as signs that he is genuinely not interested as opposed to being clueless about your implied invitations?
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He either asks me out or he doesn't. But I don't believe I ever leave a man wondering whether or not I found him attractive, unless he's totally clueless, in which case I'm not interested in him anyway!
I haven't practiced for a couple of years because Danger Man swooped in one night and claimed me for his own. But I can feel the power of attraction still surging within me, and I reckon it will be around till the day I die.
*well, maybe ONE other place