Ilya
Of course, depending on the context, a bit of flexibility may be useful and more lively. That - I hope - I have already learned since long time.
In the examples I mentioned from my teenage years, I never
"restricted" emotions. I was simply myself, without forcing a behavior. The only thing was that my reaction didn't meet the expectations of the people surrounding me.
Also please note that I'm saying this
ex post. I didn't tell myself "Calm down! Don't get angry! Master your emotions and be superior" at that time.
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Originally Posted by Ilya Especially in communication, it is good to show the emotion that is socially expected.If you control it and not vice-versa it will just improve your social life. |
Rather than "good", maybe we should say "useful" or "more respectful".
But maybe you misphrased yourself when saying "show the emotion that is socially expected"? What exactly do you mean?
That it is better to beat up someone just because everyone else expects you to? That is is better to simulate horny-ness just because everyone else drools? :P
Wouldn't it be better to
communicate to them in a proper way - in their language - that there are more interesting things than wasting time beating up people; and that there are cooler girls in town?
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Originally Posted by Ilya Especially in communication, it is good to show the emotion that is socially expected. If you control it and not vice-versa it will just improve your social life. |
Could you mind elaborating on this, with real life examples?
Especially in case you meant the above ("Drool along if everyone else drools."), I think it might actually worsen both your and your friends' social lives.
If your emotions are telling you that everyone else is doing something wrong and could do better, you would be actually
restricting your emotions by not communicating them to your friends.
Summary: Communicate
your emotions in
their language, without freaking out - or letting others freak out.