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Originally Posted by jamestl2  Any examples on how to do this? What "changes" am I suppose to make? I don't know what to do, I feel lost. |
I think you might find it helpful to pretend you are one of us giving advice to yourself, what would you say? Try read some threads on this message board, find people in a similar situation as yourself and try to give them advice, whatever advice you can think of. Don't be afraid to try anything.
In my opinion this girl you are obsessing over represents something that you feel makes you a better person. You have to find out what quality this person has and put it in your life. Then you will be happy and content with who you are, and you won't have to obsess over her. When you are happy with who you are, all your relationships will be easier and without obsession or neediness. You don't need anyone, and if you ever feel that you do, take it as a sign that you need to grow, and work till you have the things you admire in those people as a part of your life.
Check out this thread:
marry yourself first
Also, sorry to just throw links at you, but you might like this Pavlina blog post:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...oy-of-sadness/