My coach advocates focusing on what you want, not how you are going to get it. It makes sense for me.
So focusing on living in financial abundance would be a what, winning the lottery is just the how to that end. A love partner would be a what, Jane Smith from Accounts to be your love partner is focusing on the how.
Personally for me, anytime I limit one specific person, event or action to deliver one specific result I lose out on so much more and all the possibilities the universe is offering me. If I take a girl I meet on a Friday night as only a potential serious exclusive relationship I could miss out on an exciting passionate romance, a new friend with no sexual interest, and the chance to further me towards my other goals that I have.
So what I do is I have my goals and aims that are in alignment with my destiny and live purpose, and then every single thing is an opportunity for any of those goals to be realised.
Colm