Originally Posted by Swede
If you face adversities and feel fear ask yourself why you are afraid. What are you afraid of? Do you need to be afraid? Most threats we encounter do not pose any real danger.
There is nothing dangerous about being embarrassing or not knowing how to act in a certain situation. There is nothing dangerous in asking a woman/man out for a date. There is nothing dangerous in a job interview. Almost everything we do can be done again.
So, ask yourself: Do I need to be afraid?
If everything was so logical, it would all be easy. But we are illogical, emotional creatures, so it's not so easy to get over fear in a variety of situations.
The real solution to get over fear, instead of trying to rationalize it, is to just act and do whatever you're afraid of doing. If you are afraid of public speaking, go and speak to as many audiences you can, and eventually your fear will be gone, or at least be diminished a lot.
We lose our fears after we repeatedly do things that we were afraid of doing, until our stubborn unconscious mind realizes that there's no real danger in the given situation.