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Old 09-11-2007, 08:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
Angela
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Sounds to me like you two haven't been together long enough for you to be making demands on her time, especially since your studies should probably be your main priority now. Architecture? She's working her ass off, man, and you should be grateful for the tiny little bits of attention she manages to eke out for you.

Just feeling the demanding way you're being is probably making her withdraw. You can completely transform the dynamic here by telling her how glad you are for your time together, and that from now on you're going to leave it to her to make time for the relationship. And, because you know it's best for both of you (and for your libido!), that it would be a good time to let go of the monogamy bond, so you can both relax about that pressure.

It's like a game of tug-of-war. If you suddenly let go of your end of the rope (with love and communication, of course), you interrupt the way things are going and leave room for a new interaction to begin.

Good luck!
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