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Restrikted · 09-11-2007, 07:02 PM

My girlfriend of 3 1/2 months and I ended up going to the same college together (Penn State), and I thought it would be awesome, but it's not. By the way, we were both already going to PSU before we started going out. Anyway, I knew she would be busy a lot, since she is in the architecture program, which is very difficult. However I wasn't prepared for this. The only time we have ever had a chance to really be alone together was last Friday night. The 1st week, she was busy all weekend, the 2nd week we both went home and couldn't see each other.

So far, we have been alone together once in a 2 1/2 week period, and we live like 30 seconds away! Plus we won't be seeing each other this weekend because she is going home again since it's her birthday on Monday.

The only time we have together is when I walk her back from class twice a week (20 min), when we eat a meal together (probably twice a week), and when my roommate (high school friend) and I go to her dorm to study every so often. That's it.

What pisses me off is that one time she came over for about 30 minutes, just me and her, and she had to draw for one of her classes while I was stuck watching TV. And she tries to tell me to appreciate those times that we have together, like when we sometimes eat together, sometimes walk to class, and the time when she was drawing! She's trying to pass these off as quality time together when its not!

What's even worse is that we set times when we can be alone together everyday. We are supposed to have some alone time every day except Thursday, because my roommate has like no classes, so we can't be alone then. So we set times, but what's worse is that she always breaks them, like today we used that time to try to get tickets to a show in a couple weeks, which we couldn't get. All the other alone times we are supposed to have? Something always comes up with her, so we don't have any alone time.

I would love to tell her that I need more out of this relationship, but I know that her response will be something like "You need to appreciate that I am always busy, and when we have time together, you can't be sad because you never see me." Maybe she'll even tell me that we can't be together right now because she's busy.

I am so sick of this!!!

She also tells me that what she likes about me is that I can be her friend as well as her boyfriend. But the only side of her that I see when we have those few precious seconds with her is her friend side! We rarely kiss because she doesn't like to kiss in public, or because my roommate is around.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but should a boyfriend really have to worry about when he will be able to make out with his girlfriend, who lives 30 seconds away?

What should I do about this situation? Sorry if it was long and rambly, I'm venting. I don't know what to do about this. The obvious answer would be to confront her, but she'll just get all pissed off at me.

09-11-2007, 07:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Restrikted Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 233	I'm Pissed Off/Sad/Confused - My GF Is Always Busy My girlfriend of 3 1/2 months and I ended up going to the same college together (Penn State), and I thought it would be awesome, but it's not. By the way, we were both already going to PSU before we started going out. Anyway, I knew she would be busy a lot, since she is in the architecture program, which is very difficult. However I wasn't prepared for this. The only time we have ever had a chance to really be alone together was last Friday night. The 1st week, she was busy all weekend, the 2nd week we both went home and couldn't see each other. So far, we have been alone together once in a 2 1/2 week period, and we live like 30 seconds away! Plus we won't be seeing each other this weekend because she is going home again since it's her birthday on Monday. The only time we have together is when I walk her back from class twice a week (20 min), when we eat a meal together (probably twice a week), and when my roommate (high school friend) and I go to her dorm to study every so often. That's it. What pisses me off is that one time she came over for about 30 minutes, just me and her, and she had to draw for one of her classes while I was stuck watching TV. And she tries to tell me to appreciate those times that we have together, like when we sometimes eat together, sometimes walk to class, and the time when she was drawing! She's trying to pass these off as quality time together when its not! What's even worse is that we set times when we can be alone together everyday. We are supposed to have some alone time every day except Thursday, because my roommate has like no classes, so we can't be alone then. So we set times, but what's worse is that she always breaks them, like today we used that time to try to get tickets to a show in a couple weeks, which we couldn't get. All the other alone times we are supposed to have? Something always comes up with her, so we don't have any alone time. I would love to tell her that I need more out of this relationship, but I know that her response will be something like "You need to appreciate that I am always busy, and when we have time together, you can't be sad because you never see me." Maybe she'll even tell me that we can't be together right now because she's busy. I am so sick of this!!! She also tells me that what she likes about me is that I can be her friend as well as her boyfriend. But the only side of her that I see when we have those few precious seconds with her is her friend side! We rarely kiss because she doesn't like to kiss in public, or because my roommate is around. Correct me if I'm wrong, but should a boyfriend really have to worry about when he will be able to make out with his girlfriend, who lives 30 seconds away? What should I do about this situation? Sorry if it was long and rambly, I'm venting. I don't know what to do about this. The obvious answer would be to confront her, but she'll just get all pissed off at me.