Well, DeathStorm,
If people are confusing your emotional mastery with coldness you may want to take a closer look at your definition of emotional mastery.
The examples that you've given - not beating up someone and not drooling about girls may be misleading. They are the situations when you may want to restrict your emotions. But in general emotional mastery is not necessarily means maintaining the limited set of emotions in most situations.
I see emotional mastery as the skill of finding an optimal emotion for each situation, to increase the range of available emotions, while keeping them under control. There are situations when rage or aggression are suitable and useful emotions. And I would see it as a lack of emotional mastery if a person would not be able to access these emotions in such a situation.
So, while it shouldn't bother you if others think you are cold because of the emotions you choose. But you may want to double check the choices that you are making. Especially in communication, it is good to show the emotion that is socially expected. If you control it and not vice-versa it will just improve your social life.
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Ilya.
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