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Originally Posted by JJP  Sup dude, I masturbated to porn habitually for about 8 years. I was ok with it when I was young, but eventually I got really into spirituality and meditation, and I lost interest in porn and masturbating. I actually now think that masturbating by itself is fine, it's just porn that is unhealthy.
Well, what worked for me was that everytime I started thinking about looking at porn I would say to myself "I am now choosing to honor my sexuality" or "I order the universe to heal my sexuality" and just move on to something else and trust in the universe to guide me to where I intended to go. Also, regular meditation can help. Overall I'm glad I stopped beating off -- now my aura is healthier and I feel comfortable around women.
Porn addictions, unhealthy masturbation and the like are generally signs that your relationship/sex life with real women sucks, so... work on improving that. |
I like what you said. It inspires me! Tell me more about your meditation...what kind of things you do. How long did it take you to stop viewing porn or masturbating? I know there is no such thing as a quick fix but I'm want to change. Thanks JJP. I look forward to reading your comments.
I'm in my early twenties and I've never been on a date. Sure, I'm shy...that's part of the reason why I haven't dated. I never really spend more than 30 minutes at time viewing porn. Usually, I go for a few days and then there's a trigger...seeing a scantily clad woman on tv is usually the trigger. I've started porn/masturbation since I was about 12. It's not something that I sit at home and watch at hours on end. Sometimes I do it out of boredom. Sometimes I do it to feel better about myself. Sometimes I do it once I see a trigger... my mind shuts off (even though it really doesn't. That's just how I feel) and I just have to do it.
After the 20-30 minutes are up, I trash the pictures/movies and I'll be porn-free for another 2-3 days.
Some of you may believe that there is nothing wrong with viewing porn and masturbation. That's fine that you believe that way. I'm not here to argue with you.
I have learned for myself that is not good for me to do. I simply ask for anyone's advice to help me in achieving something that I want to do - breaking my porn addiction.
I think it is hurting my relationship with women. Subconsciously, I think I do look at women as mere sex objects. Although, consciously I completely disagree with objectifying women that way.
I do have several hobbies and I'm in school full time. But I always manage to find some time to surf the net.