Originally Posted by Xin
Now that's something. Yet, and you will excuse me the question, how do you deal with it? I'm 6 years younger than you and there were times when I just couldn't help but to feel hopeless, like I lacked something others seemed to grasp naturally. Yeah, with time, getting to see most girls are not like the hype tells us they are, and realizing most relationships are just a cage, I eventually got bored of trying to get something not really benefitial.
But are you at peace with it, or it's still something you feel is missing on your life?
Sometimes I feel like there's something missing, but most times I stay too busy to care (reading hundreds of books a year, working full time, being involved in charities, etc.)
I know that it is important to be in a relationship when a person is older for health reasons, since men who are married tend to have less cases of stress and heart disease.
On one hand, the guys I know who have girlfriends/wives seem very happy.
On the other hand, I know guys whose girlfriends dumped them who felt suicidal. There is also the risk of having to pay alimony or child support. I don't really know how common that is, and women have risks of their own (being beaten or having to raise kids as a single mother for instance).
This is all anecdotal, and I still need to investigate some more peer-reviewed research to see if the pros of having a girlfriend outweighs the cons. And yes, I know this is a very nerdy way to go about this task.
I guess you could also just reprogram your partner to behave the way you want them to: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...mming-reality/