I think that we deal with stuff differently according to our attitude, so whats your attitude and how you deal with it?, do you play the guitar to get girls or because you dont get girls? (just an "example question" not aimed at anyone in particular).
This opinion comes from someone who was very antisocial and shy, wich is now overcoming it with an awesome tool called EFT!, i recommend you to check it out, link at my sig.
My attitude towards girls was that i didnt really care, i didnt even care to get some action because dealing with the personality was too much for me, and i was too introverted, and i was happy that way
You seem to have tried something with girls, but now you ask its dumb, i ask why did you try it in the first place?, just asking, i am not insinuating anything.
The best thing you can do is never worry about "girls" again, and get to know about what you really want, AND get to know yourself, and grow, from there youll know more about what kind of girl will suit you best.
Now that i am coming out of my shell, wich doesnt mean i am not introverted anymore, i am focusing on opening my eyes very wide for the girl i want, i have seen many nice candidates, but why settle for what i really want?, why screw myself up for less?, that would be getting me in "a cage" as you say. Meeting that girl is not something i need, just something i really want, knowing this can give you a lot of relief too.