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Originally Posted by Angela  You sure there are only two paths? You might get some insight, or get counseling, or find out she wants out too |
Without external help (see below) -- how do I do that? I can't just ask this kind of question. Was deciding to break up together the third way you thought of?
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Originally Posted by Angela Why don't you guys talk to a third party and see if you can communicate yourselves to a resolution that works out for the best for everyone? |
I tried to convince her to do so but she doesn't want. She says she won't talk to strangers about our problems. I tried telling her these are professionals, that it's normal to have problems, even serious ones...
That's basically root of all problems -- we can't constructively talk about our relationship. I try very hard to talk about solutions, leaving accusations and grievances out, but that's extremely hard. She believes in things getting better by themselves. Well, after two years together nothing got better by itself :/
But, back to the original question: do you have any idea about any way out of this situation that wouldn't hurt others so much? Or am I doomed to choose between fight I don't really believe I can win and being cruel?