 Enforcing Parental Boundaries
Last night I followed a link and read one of Steve’s archived articles (Dealing with Difficult Relatives) which helped alleviate some guilt I’ve felt setting boundaries with two family members (my parents.)
However the article brought up a question for me, especially the last line that advised to move to another city if all else fails.
In my case, I’ve already moved away--but since imposing boundaries several years ago (in particular, limiting phone interactions, holiday visits, etc.) they suddenly started vacationing in the city where I live. Previously, they never visited here at all.
They give little prior notice as to when they’re coming, however, I’m expected to meet up with them, etc. I’ve told them how I feel about it, but nothing changes.
I’ve gone along with it for the past three years, mostly out of guilt, however, I’m wondering if this year (just found out they’ll be here next month) I should simply say, “Sorry, I’m busy that week.”
I’m wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience, has suggestions about dealing with this, or other ideas for enforcing parental boundaries.  |