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No problemo. That's what I'm here for until the boyfriend gets here for dinner!
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I don't think I'm shy at all. I've broken that mold a while ago, and i also derive my energy from being in my comfort zone *Totally comfortable being isolated without needing to feed off of other peoples aura; not so loquacious when around friend's friends, don't care to really seek other people's approval, etc.. A characteristic of being an introvert entails always thinking before talking and evaluating/reevaluating your statements/responses, as opposed to being an extrovert whereas he/she doesn't. Maybe i probably still am shy to a certain extent though, so you're right in that respect.
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I'm that way myself, regarding not needing others.
But you obviously need your brother's approval for whatever reason.
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honestly I'm not too sure, maybe be a mixture of both. I often over think how to approach the angular scope of whatever hes elaborating on, only to find myself not saying anything at all.
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Why not voice it?
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When i say he's smarter than i am,I'm not second guessing when i think it has to do with his analysis of the world and how it operates,maybe he just has a better understanding of things that hes learned through experience. .. Typical things we converse about he expands on so extensively, and maybe i aspire reach that caliber of wisdom.
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It sounds like your identity is hugely based around being the younger brother. Go get your own, boy! When you seek out your own world experiences independent of your brother, you'll find yourself with new insights.
I'll let you in on one of the greatest secrets of my life: Truly striking it out on my own with no family, friends, or anything in a new town. When you truly step away from all your old roles, and begin fresh, you're free to do anything. Sure, I kept in touch, but I left my ex and started TOTALLY fresh. And when you become that single (in a romantic and familial sense) confident person, THAT'S the person who gets invited to the party and everyone is jealous of.
And you'll find in that real fresh start in a new scene, be it a new bar or a new town or taking new classes at your friendly community college, you'll start to see that person and how awesome you can be. And when you go back to those relationships, you'll bring that experience and confidence with you.