The engine is not the only thing in our system. We also have a brain. It's not about ignoring, it's about control. Controlling yourself and reflecting on internal emotional responses are a mature way of evaluating a problem.
If a boss critiques you and you become angry by the "insult", it makes sense to keep quiet and not act on your impulse. Think back and try to understand why you had that particular emotional reaction. Use your reason to see if the emotion is justified. If it is, then there really is no problem and you need to learn how to express that emotion constructively. If it is not justified, correct it. Emotions are a tool, we are the handler.
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