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Originally Posted by Shamou  Again, I hope that I am wrong... but the reason that he does not want to commit with you is precisely because you share so much more... sharing can be seen as an entanglement... a place where you lose some of your freedom... a place where you must let go a part of who you are in order to become a part of a couple... it can be damned scary if the person does not care enough.... |
So thats what he meant when he said "you are my best friend and I tell you everything and thats why I cant do that to you, because im not ready for that right now"..when I got upset at him, he told me that I was taking it as a negative, but its not, its just that he cant be that person right now
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Originally Posted by Shamou There is always that nagging feeling... "what if I can find something better down the line..." if, I'm stuck... I won't be able to jump on that opportunity.... |
Keeping options open...
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Originally Posted by Shamou In a "toy relationship" you have none of those issues... you can always get rid of a toy as easily as you have acquired it... so, no feelings of obligation there... |
Got you, he explained this somewhat to me, I think thats what he meant by "something for right now and to pass the time away while he gets himself together". That's another thing, he is not quite where he wants to be in life, he has so much more he has wants and needs to do, and at his worst point thats when he decided to be with "the toy" as you say..
What is a "something to do, or something to pass time away" ?
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Originally Posted by Shamou However, I honestly hope that I am wrong... and I do wish you the very best...
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Shamou, I think you right, thank you for the well wishes, and thanks for deciphering this for me!