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Angela · 09-07-2007, 02:05 PM

It's interesting that so many folks are advising Jess to let it slide, don't let it bother you, buck up, etc..... As most of you know, when something really pushes your buttons, things don't slide off, they stick! You can pretend to shrug it off, but you're really just pushing your resentment, etc. deeper into yourself where it will fester and implode again stronger next time.

I think when you're really bugged by something, it is a little gift from the cosmos -- a special neon sign that is pointing to something in yourself that, if you look boldly at it and take inspired action, it can lead you to the next big step in your life. Things that bug you can show you a way of being that is holding you back or getting in the way of your getting what you want. And -- the act of confronting them and taking 100% responsibility for them is the pathway to paradise.

Jess, if you were to look at all the things that bug you, little things, big things, and pay attention to why they bug you -- what way of being it triggers inside you -- you would be free to see that that triggered way of being is habitual. Once you look boldly in the face of how you habitually Be, then you can choose something that works better. But as long as you (anyone) remains unconscious about how they're being, they're kind of stuck being that way! You know how it's so easy to see when someone's being a butthead, and when you tell them they're being a butthead, they get all confused and resistant? It's difficult to look at one's self, easy to see it in others.

Not that you're being a butthead! I'm just suggesting you look closely at HOW YOU ARE BEING when your button gets pushed. I don't know what it is for you, but it sounds like maybe you're reminded of a childhood feeling and are reliving it: worthless, maybe? Did you often find yourself defending yourself when you were little? Whatever it is, examine it, and see if it works for the life you want to live, and generate something new that gets you where you want to go.

These tiny little annoying signposts can be huge billboards pointing you to a life you love.

Best wishes.

09-07-2007, 02:05 PM	#19 (permalink)
Angela Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 22,520	Water off a duck's back?!? It's interesting that so many folks are advising Jess to let it slide, don't let it bother you, buck up, etc..... As most of you know, when something really pushes your buttons, things don't slide off, they stick! You can pretend to shrug it off, but you're really just pushing your resentment, etc. deeper into yourself where it will fester and implode again stronger next time. I think when you're really bugged by something, it is a little gift from the cosmos -- a special neon sign that is pointing to something in yourself that, if you look boldly at it and take inspired action, it can lead you to the next big step in your life. Things that bug you can show you a way of being that is holding you back or getting in the way of your getting what you want. And -- the act of confronting them and taking 100% responsibility for them is the pathway to paradise. Jess, if you were to look at all the things that bug you, little things, big things, and pay attention to why they bug you -- what way of being it triggers inside you -- you would be free to see that that triggered way of being is habitual. Once you look boldly in the face of how you habitually Be, then you can choose something that works better. But as long as you (anyone) remains unconscious about how they're being, they're kind of stuck being that way! You know how it's so easy to see when someone's being a butthead, and when you tell them they're being a butthead, they get all confused and resistant? It's difficult to look at one's self, easy to see it in others. Not that you're being a butthead! I'm just suggesting you look closely at HOW YOU ARE BEING when your button gets pushed. I don't know what it is for you, but it sounds like maybe you're reminded of a childhood feeling and are reliving it: worthless, maybe? Did you often find yourself defending yourself when you were little? Whatever it is, examine it, and see if it works for the life you want to live, and generate something new that gets you where you want to go. These tiny little annoying signposts can be huge billboards pointing you to a life you love. Best wishes.