The other possibility when shooting for the moon is coming hurtling back to Earth at terminal speed...
In general I agree with Jim's advice; there are some qualities which people tend to consider definite requirements, and others which they can take or leave.
But the very first thing I think you should do is consider how much experience you've had with girls with different qualities? How many relationships have you had? How many different girls have you dated? You can speculate and self-reflect as much as you want, yet as David said, when you're there in the moment things change. It could turn out that what you thought you'd like is something you really don't care for, and something you thought would drive you nuts is actually something you love! There's no point imagining an ideal girl if those ideals aren't accurate.
The way I see it, rather than painting a picture (which comes from your imagination) you build up a montage from snapshots of reality. And then you blur it.
Finally, love is a process of increasing mutual understanding. Details are important, but willingness to figure out and accept each other, regardless of the specifics of those details, is far more important.
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