How does one intellegently compare and contrast the best option after a breakup, seperation or divorce?
hmmm... which one, which one, which one????
I am well aware that each situation is different so therefore one person's solution may be folly to another, which is why there is a muti-million dollar industry on relationship advice in the first place. But my question delves a little deeper. How does one accurate assess their situation and ultimately find the right solution for them, rather than what the "experts" or "pastors" say. In a much more profound nature... how do we intellegently compare these terms in relation to choosing the right thing to do in our broken relationship situations... moving on, letting go, giving space, giving time, apologizing, forgiving, re-forming a friendship, making ammends? For example can one successfully apologize, be forgiven and move on simulteneously? If you were accurately forgiven a friendship would begin would it not? Therefore, isn't moving on directly opposed to forgiving and being forgiven? Yet on the other hand, if you could let go more easily wouldn't friendship be more attainable? So how do we assess which choice is the most appropiate one to act on, the most moral, as well as the most practical? How does one figure out which option is ultimately the best option for all parties involved in the long term, while still attending to his/her short term needs?
