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Originally Posted by Sourcerer  the reason why "[t]his whole thread has been about [my] fight to hold onto" "'I shut down during conversations'" is because I'm looking for a way to stop shutting down. |
Right! Have you looked into the LoA concepts at all? These are concept-formations (larger concepts made up of smaller ones
) which suggest that what you resist persists -- that is, what you concentrate on is what you get more of. What I was suggesting to you here is that if, after your first post or two in which you described your situation, you had
focused on where you want to go rather than where you are or where you have been -- then you would be following the concept-formation which I had in mind.
You asked me about this, Sourcerer (I'm very sorry I spelled your name wrong). I was not insisting you do what I say; my advice began with.... "you might try....". Your rather defensive & snarky response to what I had to say in answer to your request for help suggests to me that you are indeed in a state of resistance. Then again, I might be misreading you and if so, I'm sorry for that.
My suggestion to you stands. If you were to focus on what you want to create in a conversation, you could generate a large, all-at-once breakthrough for yourself. I'm not speaking of concepts at all; I'm speaking of something that you can't conceive of till you generate it -- a real breakthrough into a way of being that is not reached by way of understanding small concepts and putting them together to create larger concepts. In fact, it's not even about understanding. It's about being.
But again, you are under no obligation to take my advice, of course you know that. But you do have the power to, if you choose it.