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I have plenty of time I just dont do anything with it.
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Something you must be doing with it, though. Replace that with going out. Just do it.
With practice it gets easier. Take one step at a time and gradually move on. Do the things you never dreamed of doing, yet. Expand your comfort zones. Get uncomfortable! This is the best advice one can tell.
Approach people on the street. Hot women. Do cold approaches. Go to a party. No friends? No problem, since your best friend is yourself. Play the numbers game. Approach 5 girls. 10, 20, 50. Have no worries and absolutely no expectations.
You are a coder, right? Programming is a skill. Do you make mistakes? Do you fail often? Are your codes always compiling and running the way they should
every single time? I really doubt that. We all fail. It is human to fail. Girls know that. People know that. You
also know it, but still are affected by its influence. You will see the more you practice doing these "unfamiliar" skills you will get better on them. It's amazing. Just do it. Don't expect anything. Chat up those girls, dude. Doing these you will lose fear of rejection. It just does not matter. Why should it? Nobody there knows you anyway, and - let me tell you - nobody there really cares to watch you attentively anyway.
Getting uncomfortable is simply amazing. Once you do that, and befriend your failures, you will grow and grow. Be kind to yourself and to your learning experiences. Practice and practice, if you fail, stop for a moment, and think why you failed. Use Google, search for socialization articles and/or blog entries, pick up books and learn the theory. Then go out, just do it, and practice. Repeat.
As for learning at college, keep it up. Study some time management books and theories (like the 4 quadrants), and apply them. Write down your major purpose of life down on paper. Use paper and a pen. Set goals that will serve you as a well-defined strategy toward achieving that ideal self who fulfills your major purpose.
Good luck.