Anger is just a message that one of your boundaries has been crossed. Whilst I agree it isn't healthy to be consumed by anger, it is also unhealthy to suppress it without expressing it in some form as trying to squash it down can lead to illness.
So the challenge is to find a way to act on the message the anger has given you, without being consumed by it.
If you are able to speak to the person and explain calmly how what they said / did made you feel without being personal, then you may find a resolution to that particular issue.
If you are not able to speak to them (either because they are not here to talk to, or because you feel you can't). Using a 'giveaway' can help. This is where you write down everything that is making you angry, then give it away either by burning it or throwing it away. Don't read it back first because then you reabsorb all that energy. The important thing is that the anger has been expressed.
I would look at if someone is making you angry in the present, what memories that is triggering for you from your past? Who does it remind you of and what about that past relationship do you need to heal?
I also work with people's energy systems and either use EFT (emotional freedom technique) to help release the emotion, or find out where that anger is physically located in the body (where has it got stuck?) and then work on finding the correct channel for it to 'swoosh' through. Sounds a bit strange, but it is just stuck energy that needs to flow through the body.
Trying to view the person or thing that made you angry from a loving perspective and trying to understand their point of view can also help to disipate anger.
Drew's comment about working on your self esteem is really useful too. The higher your self esteem, the more easily you brush off things as not personal or not significant enough to be angry about. You are less likely to feel disrespected by someone if you have a high self worth.
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