I've never dealt with a sex addiction, but I have overcome a drug addiction, and it took taking a good hard look at my life and where it was going to get me over it. I saw how disgusting I was and how pathetic my life was and got so angry with myself that I didn't want to do it anymore. I didn't need 12 step groups or drug counseling. I just needed some clarity.
How you get clarity, I have no idea. LOL. Just ask yourself over and over where exactly you think this behavior is going to lead you. Ask yourself why you aren't strong enough to control yourself. Ask yourself what kind of person your wife or you family would think you are if you let it progress. Ask yourself the hard questions until you can see what you are and what you are doing more clearly. No one wants to see their own faults, especially not through the eyes of someone disgusted with what they are doing, but sometimes that's what it takes.
Of course, this worked for me but may not work for anyone else. Just sharing my own experience.
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