I've spent a long time thinking about this subject, so this is a great thread. I think the problem is we have a long list of things at the moment in this thread. It starts getting complex.
What are you going to do? In a given situation are you going to be able to pause , read through a list and then think for 30 minutes or so to find the best response, or are you going to be in a situation when your going to have to react much quickier than that?
See the problem with this is it's just all ideals and blanket ideals at that, not your own, but what you think you should be. What is the point of following these? Your just trying to force yourself to be some ideal, and that's it, it's not even your own.
These values and things you see in other people and respect are mostly byproducts of who they are. If we all focus on the 'technique' we will never be fully genuine or master this. People that show these qualities show them out own sense of mastery.
Therefore to be great isn't what you should do is to become the best version of YOU? Just do whatever you want to do, follow your true heart, go for everything that is of interest to you. Surround yourself with what you love, not what you don't. Talk of only what intreasts you, what allows you to experience YOU, nothing else, don't care about what anyone else does or thinks, allow them to live in there own world too and respect and support that.
Live from your heart, it all comes from that. That's all you guys never need and you'll just be fine. Your all great to me *tear*
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