[denicat]

Well, I was starting to feel better about things with this guy and trying to move on. I was trying to just be a friend and keep things casual at work. He was still flirty and giving me hugs and backrubs and the usual. Then last night at work he was talking about leaving the dept. we work in and how he's thinking of moving to this little town close to our city. After a few well placed questions by myself I discovered that he's thinking about moving in with the girl he's been seeing for the last 3-4 months. That's very interesting considering that it was the end of July when he asked for my phone number and starting sending me text messages and telling me how much he liked me. All I can think about is the line of crap he gave me when he said "he really liked me and could see himself falling into a relationship with me BUT..."
(not ready for a relationship, scared of relationships, not wanting to make the same mistakes in the past, etc.)
The funny thing is he is doing exactly what he has done in the past. He's 32 with two failed marriages. Never lived on his own. Moved out on wife onto the next woman who became his wife and then to his parents for the last 9 months. Now instead of trying to stand on his own two feet he's going to move in with a new girlfriend. It's sad and pathetic. I feel sorry for the poor girl that he's moving in with. She has no idea what she is getting into. Obviously he doesn't think a whole lot of her if just 6 weeks ago he was leading me (and who knows how many other girls) on. It's pretty funny because I just told a friend a couple days ago that he was probably looking for a woman who had a house and was established and he could just slide right into a new situation with her. I don't think he can afford to live on his own because of financial issues. Apparently I can read him like a book because that sounds exactly like what is going on. I'm truly grateful that it's someone else and not me. A friend of mine thinks I scared him off because he doesn't have any self confidence and looks for people that are the same. He might have thought I was like that and after getting to know me found out that was not the case. I am very confident, strong, independent and can take care of myself. It just stirs up my emotions and anxiety all over again. I'm in the process of moving over the next couple days and I don't want to think about this stuff. However I can't turn my mind off. He's knows that I was angry and was walking around at work with this hangdog expression and asked if I was mad at him. I couldn't even talk to him and after we left work he sent me 3 text messages apologizing and putting himself down for being stupid and begging me to still be his friend no matter what happens, and that if I feel I need to cut ties with him that he will have to be understanding. I didn't respond until tonight and I told him that I wanted to talk to him face to face. I have questions that I want answered. Is it even worth my time? I have no idea. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to stop thinking about stuff or turning off obsessive thoughts?