Originally Posted by dennis08
LOL Shamou might as well eat your shirt because I wouldn’t know what to say if a girl did come over. Generate a relationship out of thin air?
I was skinny too, 6'2, 140 for a long time, and really self conscious about it. I didn't date until I was 18. That was my third year of college, I went at 16, so for two years of college, nada.
I always thought I'd be awkward forever and not do so well...
By the time I was 21, things had changed though. I got plenty of dates. I was about 150lbs at that point, and just had learned not to be self conscious. It just happened with time, both the weight and the attitude.
I came to realize no one really has it all that together, and then I was free to be myself without ever feeling judged or anything.
Now I'm 26, 175, and man, I am doing too well in the dating game for my own good. Being the skinny geeky guy pays off bigtime, it just takes a little while.
This may be cliche advice, but here's my two cents.
Forget about a relationship for now, and try to get as many certifications as possible in whatever field you want to work in.
Then, when you are 23-24, you'll have put on some weight and you'll be getting paid a lot more attention anyway, and you'll be a CPA, or a MD, or whatever too. Thats a killer combo.
Girls like skills... nunchuck skills.
For right now, if you find a girl attractive try to make out with her and maybe something comes of it. Or maybe not. Not the end of the world either way.
Guys who worry about sex all the time are a dime a dozen, guys who are still in shape at thirty and have a great career and who actually like who they are = rare.
I know its hard to have that kind of faith in the future, but trust me, I wish I had worried way, way less about sex back then, and more about setting myself up with a long term career. You have plenty of time, get skilled in a career..