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VetTechJess · 09-02-2007, 08:34 PM

I have had it with people. In this case atleast. It happened this morning. (september 2, 2007). I was sitting in a restaurant with my boyfriend and our breakfast had just been served. I had ordered a bowl of grits, two fried eggs sunny side up, one hotcake and two slices of bacon. I was hungry.

Anyways to explain a little more about myself. I am 5 foot 3 and around 112lbs. I AM GENETICALLY SMALL my grandmother is only 4 foot 11 and 80 lbs, and I get my smallness (not in stature, but in weight) from that. I eat like theres no tomorrow, love the feeling of being full, and would rather be beat than starve myself or make myself purge...(I have never made myself throw up or anything, I honestly dont know how to and dont care to know how to believe it or not...)

People think it would be grand if they were smaller but the fact of the matter is, its more of a curse than a blessing, and the following scenario that happened this morning explains exactly why:

There I was about to dig into my meal when this gray haired woman walked up (I say gray haired so you would know about how old she is) and told my boyfriend: "shes not gonna eat all that is she? she looks like she doesnt eat anything hardly at all." then she walked away.

It has been a raw nerve for me, and when its hit, it hurts alot. I have had everything from my mother calling me anorexic to my grandmother announcing one time when I was minding my own business eating my dinner the phrase "everybody notice that even jessica is eating!"

so this is nothing new to me. I bite my tongue when it happens so that I will appear to be the adult in the situation, but there has to be something adult I can say as well to make them realize what they are saying is lack of manners and rude and hurtful. Although I would by first impulse rather smack said accusers a good one upside the head.....but law of this country has it to where I cannot....

ANY ADVICE?!?! I HAVE TRIED IGNORING IT BUT IT JUST DOESNT GO AWAY!!!

09-02-2007, 08:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
VetTechJess Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 277	What Do You Say To Something Like This?!?!?! (when A Complete Stranger Insults You) I have had it with people. In this case atleast. It happened this morning. (september 2, 2007). I was sitting in a restaurant with my boyfriend and our breakfast had just been served. I had ordered a bowl of grits, two fried eggs sunny side up, one hotcake and two slices of bacon. I was hungry. Anyways to explain a little more about myself. I am 5 foot 3 and around 112lbs. I AM GENETICALLY SMALL my grandmother is only 4 foot 11 and 80 lbs, and I get my smallness (not in stature, but in weight) from that. I eat like theres no tomorrow, love the feeling of being full, and would rather be beat than starve myself or make myself purge...(I have never made myself throw up or anything, I honestly dont know how to and dont care to know how to believe it or not...) People think it would be grand if they were smaller but the fact of the matter is, its more of a curse than a blessing, and the following scenario that happened this morning explains exactly why: There I was about to dig into my meal when this gray haired woman walked up (I say gray haired so you would know about how old she is) and told my boyfriend: "shes not gonna eat all that is she? she looks like she doesnt eat anything hardly at all." then she walked away. It has been a raw nerve for me, and when its hit, it hurts alot. I have had everything from my mother calling me anorexic to my grandmother announcing one time when I was minding my own business eating my dinner the phrase "everybody notice that even jessica is eating!" so this is nothing new to me. I bite my tongue when it happens so that I will appear to be the adult in the situation, but there has to be something adult I can say as well to make them realize what they are saying is lack of manners and rude and hurtful. Although I would by first impulse rather smack said accusers a good one upside the head.....but law of this country has it to where I cannot.... ANY ADVICE?!?! I HAVE TRIED IGNORING IT BUT IT JUST DOESNT GO AWAY!!!